
One of the joys in my workload is to attend the Anglican Diocesan Synod as an ecumenical observer. It was on line yesterday morning. The devotions included these words by the Christian musician Paul Field…
Go peaceful in gentleness
through the violence of these days.
Give freely.
Show tenderness
in all your ways.
Through darkness,
in troubled times
let holiness be your aim.
Seek wisdom.
Let faithfulness burn like a flame. God speed you!
God lead you, and keep you wrapped around His heart!
May you be known by love.
Be righteous.
Speak truthfully
in a world of greed and lies.
Show kindness. See everyone through heaven’s eyes.
May you be known by love.
May you be known by love. Mothering Sunday isn’t an easy Sunday for the preacher. There’s a complexity of emotions gathered in churches today. For some happiness and thanksgiving as we remember lovely mothers we will always treasure and a twinge of sadness that some of them are not with us on earth anymore. We take time today to smile about them.
There are though those for who this day is painful, those who yearned for children yet could not have them, those whose experience of mothering was not loving and those who have lost children too early.
In the world today I think of Iranian children in Southern Iran killed by a bomb on the 1 March, 150 of them, mothers and fathers who will never see them again, of mothers and fathers of those going to war, a plane load of American soldiers were lost this week, every life as this goes on that is lost will cause unimaginable grief to most of us. I think of the 30th anniversary of Dunblane this week closer to home.
And there are those who’ve found this day excludes them. And it hurts. So what to do with it? Well, let’s explore nurturing, then Christianity as a family, then radical love together. I just hope you find my rambling helpful today however this day falls for you.
I wonder if there are any avid Call the Midwife watchers amongst us. I used to watch it but I stopped because I couldn’t cope with its rawness after a busy Sunday. Sister Monica Joan passed away in the last episode of the last series, the wise matriarch and soul of Nonnatus House. She once said this: "The hands of the Almighty are so often to be found at the ends of our own arms.” I like that. May you be known by love. Let’s begin by saying this day is about remembering nurture, those who have nurtured us.
The biblical picture of Motherhood isn’t quite the sugary sweet image that we have from card manufacturers.
The biblical image of Motherhood doesn’t quite match that of the card producers where nothing is ever difficult and everyone has 2.4 children.
One woman who had three children was asked, “If you had it all to do over again, would you have children?” “Yes,” she replied, “But not the same ones”.
Another mother says, “The joy of motherhood is what a woman experiences when all the children are finally in bed.”
It’s not easy to be mothering. But let’s take time today to remember all those who have nurtured us.
Secondly Mothering Sunday invites us into a new family, deep Christian love and safety. What was on the cards you received this morning mothers? Roses, teddy bears, maybe? And what does the Church give us for Mothering Sunday? A Mother’s Day card with a picture of Mary standing at the foot of the cross, watching her son die. Anyone get a card this morning with a picture of that?
We have Mary. Mary the teenage mum becoming pregnant when she is not yet married. Mary the young widow for we don’t know exactly when Joseph died, but we know that by the time Jesus is a grown up Mary is maybe 45 or so, and Joseph is dead. Mary who stands at the foot of the cross watching her son die.
Jesus entrusted Mary to the disciple John but he didn’t entrust her to his brothers and sisters who were still alive. We know that he had four brothers – James, Joseph, Simon and Judas – and some sisters who are not named. That seems a little strange. Surely one of them could have looked after their mum into old age? But Jesus doesn’t pursue that option. Why? What else is going on here?
There is something quite profound about what Mary and the disciple John represent to us here. Because here are two people who are there with Jesus at the foot of the cross, two people who believe in his mission, two people who believe in his claim to be the Son of God – the Lord and Saviour of the world. This is in stark contrast to Jesus’ brothers. In John 7:5 we are told quite starkly, “Not even his brothers believed in him.”
So it seems that what is happening here between Jesus the Saviour and the two people at the foot of the Cross who believe in him, is that a new family is being created. “Jesus saw his mother and the disciple he loved standing there; so he said to his mother, ‘He is your son.’ Then he said to the disciple, ‘She is your mother.’ From that time the disciple took her to live in his home.” And so a new family is created in the shadow of the cross. Through the blood of Christ shed for us, a new home, a new community comes to life – a new family is born. It is here, at the foot of the cross as Jesus sheds his blood and a woman embraces a boy and a boy embraces a woman – it is here that the church is formed!”
But the family formed at the foot of the cross is bigger than that. The story of John being entrusted to Mary and Mary to John is the start of a new family which is incredibly supportive. In John’s Gospel – John represents all of us – that’s why he is never given a name – just referred to as the disciple Jesus loved.
It’s like one of those films where you don’t see the main character because they are behind the camera – John is behind the camera – we see the Gospel through his eyes. So when John is entrusted to Mary, we all are entrusted to Mary. And because death is not the end for us, because Jesus has defeated death, that relationship continues.
That’s why many Christians over the centuries and still today think of Mary as being a Mother to us.
Mary is also an example to us. As former Archbishop of Canterbury Rowan Williams puts it, “For centuries, Christians have kept coming back to the idea that what happens in Mary is what has to happen to some degree in each of us. She, uniquely and once for all, says a yes so complete that her entire material life is changed by the coming of God to her; God’s everlasting gift of himself that is the Son, the Word, emerges from her to begin that life which will change everything in creation. But we are called to the same job, to give God room so that we may be changed, so that the eternal Word will live in us and speak and act in love to others.”
And do you notice something about Jesus and Mary his mother? The roles reverse!
Even though Jesus is dying he begins to mother her. She becomes the child. He calls her ‘Dear Woman’ and then proceeds to place her into the arms of his very best friend. He provides a shelter for her…….in the same way today he wants to mother us. He notices us, even in our worst moments of pain, sadness, anxiety, shame and humiliation, he is there for us. When we have our crosses to bear, he is there for us, just like Mary was for him.
It was Jesus who described himself as a ‘mother’ – a mother hen who longed to gather her ‘brood’ under her wings, and give them her peace, if only they would let her.
We are called to give love like that of a mother to others. The hands of the Almighty are so often to be found at the ends of our own arms.
So today, as we give thanks for our human mothers and all they did for us, let us remember the motherly love of Mary and Jesus to us, and be inspired to show that motherly love to others. That’s the work of the Church.
On This is Ripon social media group the other day someone posted anonymously they were thinking of coming to church and had anybody any recommendations. It was really funny that over the next few hours most of the churches in Ripon wrote that they’d be best off with us! We like to think we are welcoming. I think people are searching for care. Maybe today is a day we think about how we nurture others especially those like Mary who need to know life doesn’t stop in tragedy.
Then finally I think Mothering Sunday reminds us that God’s love is enough. At Sawley this afternoon because they’ve got the old book we will sing “o love of God how strong and true, eternal and yet ever new, uncomprending and unbought, beyond all knowledge and all thought.”
Let me end with my favourite mother in Christian history, who can teach us so much about spirituality in today’s climate. People I meet are frightened, they are scared of Donald Trump. The preacher has to offer hope and name the things we need love to conquer today. No sermon at the moment is credible if it doesn’t mention the mess around us.
In her showings, showings’ (traditionally called ‘Revelations of Divine Love) Mother Julian of Norwich was the first woman to write a surviving book in the English language. Julian was an anchorite, an early form of the Christian monastic. She lived in a simple room attached to the local church, receiving meals and participating in church services through different windows. Julian spent most of her time connecting mystically to God. Eventually, she also wrote and gave spiritual guidance to those who came to her.
When she was 30, God healed Julian of a serious illness. At that time she had a series of visions of Jesus on the cross. One writer says that Julian had what we might now describe as a Near-Death Experience, which I thought was an interesting idea. Her visions radically changed her and she spent the rest of her life writing down the things she learned from them.
“And so our life is grounded in our true Mother, Christ, endlessly guided by his foresight and Wisdom, supported by the boundless Power of the Father, and assisted by the great Goodness of the Holy Spirit. In taking on our humanity, he brought us back to life. In dying on the cross he birthed us into life everlasting. Ever since that time, and until the Final Days, she nurtures and cares for us, as the supreme loving nature of motherhood mandates and as the natural needs of childhood require.”
Julian’s most famous saying is: All shall be well, and all shall be well and all manner of thing shall be well…
Don’t we need to hear that this Mothering Sunday? Not just that we are cared for, that the church is our family but that in God’s love all shall be well, even with bombs flying about and grave uncertainty and all our worries and questions and aches and pains and bereavements? All shall be well!
Julian, echoing the words of the Letter to the Colossians, sees that ‘God is everything that is good and supports us. He clothes us in his love, envelops us and embraces us. He wraps us round in his tender love and he will never abandon us.’
This Mothering Sunday, we give thanks for all those who have carried and nurtured us. All those who have gone with us through pain and joy. And all those who by being mothers to us, have shown us the love of God in Christ. And we commit ourselves to mothering…
In 1999 I was minister in Manchester and one of my churches was the very traditional Tame Valley church in Dukinfield. The new service book which we still use today came out that year. I used the communion service which has the words “God our Father and our mother” in it. The balloon went up! They weren’t happy. But I’m glad our understanding of God has moved beyond gender and to include motherly attributes is to find the heart of God anew.
So on this Mothering Sunday let’s be encouraged we are not alone.
God hold us, enfold us, and keep us wrapped around His heart.
May we be known by love.
May the hands of the Almighty be found at the ends of our own arms. May we know all shall be well.
And … as the thought for the week on Allhallowgate notices says this week: Mother is a verb.
It’s something you do. Not just who you are.
Mother God, you are compassionate when our capacity for mercy for ourselves and others runs dry…
Mother God, you are near when everything but the depths of despair seems so far from us…
Mother God, you are a wind of constancy, allowing us, your beloved, to sail through this journey of life amidst fear and chaos…
As we celebrate this day, let us remember that we already possess the perfect parent in you. You never forsake us, neglect us, or abandon us. Thank you. Amen















