Sunday, 27 October 2019

Thank God I am not like them...




I’ve been asked to blog yesterday’s sermon. I was trying to convince our church at Murrow it needs a new notice board, but I failed miserably as afterwards the steward stood firm!


Oh well! 


Yesterday I was privileged to be at the closing service for one of my former churches at Somerby, a small village just into Leicestershire just outside Melton Mowbray. It is hard when churches close and there were many emotions present in the gathering as we remembered a faithful witness over many years, a chapter closing, and a hope that the small number who worship there now might find a new spiritual home. 


Ministers will tell you every church they serve becomes part of them. Stories remain special years after we’ve moved on. I remember the good folk of Somerby for one story. They had a 6pm service, and at 5.55 June, the steward would say to me “we may as well start!” They put out six chairs for six people and at 5.55 all six were present so “we may as well start!” I used to say to them how do you know no one is going to walk in in the next five minutes? 


I solved it by taking friends in my car to my service there and asking them to walk in at 5.59 to find no chair they could sit in! We started at 6 after that and always put out a few extra chairs just in case. 


You see, the church without thinking about it had become inaccessible and the people had started to believe only they would ever be there. If you go out to a restaurant and there’s no seat or worse no food you don’t go back, do you? 

If you go to the theatre and you are told you can’t come in because you’re not good enough or smart enough, you don’t go back do you? 

If someone blocks your way in, you give up. 


We have an interesting Gospel story today. Two attitudes to religion at the temple. One a Pharisee, full of himself, a chair out for him in the synagogue, full of self righteousness and pomposity. A Pharisee who says to himself “look at me and how much I do - I’m very important, and I like to do my religion with my sort and I like to keep it that way.” 

The Pharisee, part of God’s own people, is horrified to see a tax collector sharing his space. He says, “I thank God I’m not like him!” 


Do you have a story from a time when you said a similar prayer to the Pharisee – when you gave thanks that you weren’t like someone else? Perhaps there are people you know who you find frustrating, or maybe it’s people you don’t know at all whose behaviour or life situation you just judge. What makes us act like we are superior like like the Pharisee? I thank God I’m not like the those poor people up the road. I thank God I’m not like those unruly teenagers in the street. I thank God I’m not like those people who voted to remain. I thank God my church is not like that one!

 I thank God people like that don’t come here! Only put out enough chairs for us...

Our society excels in deciding on another’s fate. But who are we to judge who is in and who is out? 


The Pharisee doesn’t actually speak to God. He just makes a statement seeing someone he thinks is inferior near him, daring to approach this Jesus, the so called holy man. Remember that tax collectors were lumped with sinners as undesirables. Remember that the law the Pharisee knew well had stuff in it about being clean and unclean. A common criticism of Jesus by the law abiders was that he ate with tax collectors and sinners. What is powerful about this episode Luke records is that the person you expect to pray doesn’t, he just lords it about, reminding the world how important he is, do you know people like that? There’s none in your church but they are about! I’m a steward! I’ve had churches which used to insist on having a top table at functions. There used to be a scrap who got to sit on it. My church in County Durham even had different china on the top table than the riffraff used! The person judged to be outside and rightly outside divine attention, prays. He works in the tax office, for the government, never a popular job with your neighbours; he simply prays for God to have mercy on him. 


Of course, we aren’t a pharisaical church are we? Before we congratulate ourselves let’s look at how we can be. Are we as bad as only putting six chairs out, not just not expecting people to share our Christian story but not wanting them to.  


We thank God in the Church that we are not like other people. We are not like that lot. And we do the same in our country. We thank God we are not like that other country, the French, or that foreigner. Listen to the Pharisee shout so loudly about what he is against: I am not a thief, a rogue, or an adulterer. But heed this as someone wrote about this passage - when we start to make a list of what we are not, the list takes on an energy of its own. The list refuses to stop.


 The Pharisee bleating on so cheerfully about who he is not like, finally admits that he is separated even from his fellow worshipper who happens to be in the temple with him. The Pharisee is all alone.  He separates himself from humanity one category at a time. 

And the more he separates himself from those who come in need, he separates himself from God. 


Meanwhile, the tax collector humbly comes and seeks God’s mercy in a beautiful and simple act of contrition. In old Russia, a lonely monk wanted to learn how to follow the instructions of First Thessalonians 5:17, "Pray without ceasing."

 How can one pray without ceasing? He learned that he could pray while he breathed in and out, with a prayer that we now know as the Jesus Prayer.


"Lord Jesus Christ, Son of God,

Have mercy on me, a sinner."


The monks of ancient Greece used that prayer, and many other use that Jesus Prayer today. If anyone today is just learning to pray, you have all you need in this Jesus Prayer, in this prayer of the tax collector, "God, have mercy upon me, a sinner." When life seems to have left you out, "Lord, have mercy" acknowledges our need.

What’s the lesson of these two men sharing sacred space for us here today? That we cannot afford to be self righteous when people in need are wanting to come and give their lot to God. We need to be more open and accessible because there is a yearning for the spiritual in people we may be have judged there is no interest. The shape of the Church has to change to be more inclusive and less condemnatory. We have to expect encounter with people, and leave spare chairs. 


We are currently looking through profiles for a new appointment as I return to full time Circuit ministry next September. Stationing happens a week next Thursday.


 We went to visit some possible contexts this week and in one I walked into the local parish church and picked up their church magazine for November. You can learn a lot about churches from magazines and notice boards. 


I learnt in a few pages they do a soup kitchen free of charge every Monday, and in their ladies loo are piles of sanitary towels as locally there is period poverty and young girls can’t afford them, and they have a specialist worker at the Methodist Church to pastor those with dementia in older age. The church responding to local need. 


We should have a large sign up outside that people can see as they drive past that Murrow Methodist Church is open and this is the message we want to share with you. 


I think you need a new notice board on the other wall outside at the front with less stuff in it than the one you have at the moment I say with respect! People need to know you are still open. This is a large village with people searching. You are the only church here. We have an opportunity. People like the tax collector are needing a new start. And if the door is shut, or there aren’t enough chairs or we tut at them then we face a very bleak future indeed like the lonely Pharisee.


 The challenge for me in this story today is the need to remember we have to create space for the story of Gods love and new beginnings to be encountered.


At Somerby yesterday the preacher included this story: A young man beginning university arrived at a boardinghouse. A retired, wheelchair-bound music professor resided on the first floor. Each morning the young man would stick his head in the door of the teacher’s apartment and ask the same question. “Well, what’s the good news?”


The old man would pick up his tuning fork, tap it on the side of the wheelchair and say, “That’s middle C! It was middle C yesterday; it will be middle C tomorrow; it will be middle C a thousand years from now. The tenor upstairs sings flat. The piano across the hall is out of tune, but, my friend, that is middle C.” 


God’s love hasn’t changed. The need to share it is as urgent as its ever been. The tax collectors are the mission field. 

We offer mercy at the heart of what we are. Leave out enough chairs. Expect people. Have a larger God. Or face doom by saying I thank God no one comes near me. 


We have all been there. Maybe some of us are there right now. "Lord, have mercy on us." And may our humility, with God's mercy, bring us into right relationship with our neighbour, with the world, with God.



Sunday, 13 October 2019

Offering God’s providence —- or not :(



Yesterday’s lectionary readings were all about people, lepers, being given unexpected healing as the God person entered their suffering, namely Elisha for Naaman, the commander of the enemy army, and Jesus for the ten lepers Luke describes ostracised by society. 

We want life’s journey to include blessing and renewal, inner healing of body, mind and spirit, after a tough time or even simply a long day. We have found a lovely place to have Sunday dinner. We ate after my afternoon service and it felt good to be full and satisfied. 



In the restaurant we were welcomed, our needs were met, we felt we mattered, we want to go back, because what we got was extremely good. (Local readers: The Barn at Terrington St John really is yummy!) 

How does this compare with church? Are churches places where people can go and find healing, transformation, sustenance? We’ve enjoyed playing mystery worshipper since June. Yesterday we were in three worship spaces. What we received was mixed.

Church 1 (above) - we arrived ten minutes late. We arrived in torrential rain. The vicar, Ryk, who has met us a few times, leapt out of his stall, walked down the aisle and warmly greeted us. The Old Testament reading was being read at the time by someone else. The service was simple and good. Afterwards, we were welcomed warmly. It was a joint Anglican and Methodist Service. The two churches are next door to each other. The two Methodist folk there, Chris and Joy, introduced us to everyone as I’m taking a joint breakfast service for them in a fortnight. If we had gone seeking help, would we have found it? Yes! 



We went on to church number 2: an 11am service. We arrived at 10.56 to find the preacher half way through her prayers of adoration. They had already sung a hymn so they had started early clearly thinking everyone was there who was coming. We had to sit behind everyone. One person turned to look at us in the benediction. We were spoken to, but mostly people wanted to moan about how to keep the thing going. There was no welcome, no concept of need coming in off the street. The preacher did her best, but the whole thing was hard work. The hymns were accompanied by a music box which set them all to waltz time with amazing bits in between the verses. I’ve never sung To God be the Glory like I did yesterday morning! If we had gone seeking help, would we have found it? No. 

I’m challenged here by the outside of some church buildings. Here’s the notice board of church number 2 and another church board I pass every day which just makes me so frustrated... Sunday services are just about in this mess. Apparently it’s a Council board we can use but well, we could do better! 





In the afternoon we moved to Church 3, the little church we’ve attached ourselves to for our brief stay here. They are now worshipping in the lady chapel in the Parish Church. We knew there would only be a few there as one of them was in hospital and another has just come out of hospital, but early yesterday we got a call to say another two had no water and had to wait in for it to be turned back on so we should cancel the service. The fifth lady who comes had already been phoned to say the service had been cancelled! 

I suggested I turn up at the church with a service and a CD player with disks just in case anyone turned up. To my surprise, two people from another church and the church warden from the C of E came through the door so we had a service after all. There were five of us and we had a lovely time. I was sad as I’m not taking many services to be cancelled even though it was for difficult pastoral reasons. It was really good to lead worship again after a gap of a few weeks. I think God spoke to us with a message of surprise. Never cancel the service unless you really have to! You never know who might come and then finding a locked church because we think no one can come of our little group is just so wrong. If we went yesterday afternoon seeking help, did we find it? Yes! 



What’s the lesson from all of this for us? The bible stories we heard yesterday were about the overflowing grace of God being offered to desperate need. We say all are welcome, it is the heart of Methodist theology. But often how we put out the chairs, how we don’t expect people to joIn us anymore, how we act like it is our club, how we are obsessed with keeping it going but have lost the reason why, blight inclusivity and frankly the Gospel being shared. 

We used to sing this hymn years ago:

When the church of Jesus shuts its outer door,
Lest the roar of traffic drown the voice of prayer:
May our prayers, Lord make us ten times more aware
That the world we banish is our Christian care.

If our hearts are lifted where devotion soars
High above this hungry suffering world of ours:
Lest our hymns should drug us to forget its needs,
Forge our Christian worship into Christian deeds.

And that’s before we’ve even begun to discuss being God’s people where people are. Jesus met the lepers as he approached the village. They would have had no thought of engaging inside a religious community - and nor have many today. We offer the providence and healing of God by being creative and relevant and so often now that’s not in a traditional act of worship that we enjoy and just isn’t reaching anyone except us. 



When we are satisfied, life feels good. We put the log burner on last night and Alice was in heaven! Similarly if Jesus is met then who knows what that will do to people. I just worry he isn’t being met because we’ve forgotten how to share him or even need to. 

Discuss!





Friday, 4 October 2019

Gratitude



On Monday night while I was cooking in the kitchen using the oven, the carbon monoxide alarm went off several times in about half an hour. 

I ended up in hospital in Kings Lynn having been taken in by ambulance as I became very unwell with exposure to carbon monoxide after being in the kitchen even for a short while. After several blood tests over seven hours, the levels of carbon monoxide in me came down. Had our landlord not fitted an alarm things could have been very different. 

As people have this week written to me to say they know of people who have died from carbon monoxide poisoning I am at the end of the week thanking God for a narrow escape! 

Monday night and this week have led me to think about gratitude. Max Lucado has some interesting thoughts on saying thank you in “God is with you every day”: 

“Gratitude gets us through the hard stuff! To reflect on your blessings is to rehearse God’s accomplishments.  To rehearse God’s accomplishments is to discover his heart! To discover his heart is to discover not just good gifts but the Good Giver. Gratitude always leaves us looking at God and away from dread. The apostle Paul said, “Give thanks for everything to God the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ” 

The surest path out of a slump is marked by the road sign, Thank you. But what of the disastrous days? Grateful then? Jesus was. “On the night when he was betrayed,” Scriptures says, “the Lord Jesus took a loaf of bread, and when he had given thanks, he broke it” (1 Corinthians 11:23-24 NLT). How often do you see the words betrayed and thanks in the same sentence—much less in the same heart? Give thanks…and see what happens.”



I cannot praise the NHS enough this week. The paramedics who came to me when I thought I was dying were excellent. The under staffed doctors and nurses in A and E as I lay on a bed in agony were excellent. The receptionist who let me sleep in a chair as I couldn’t go anywhere for a few hours not being able to get a lift home until gone 9am, was excellent. My new colleague Debbie was so kind to me when I was feeling grotty. She picked me up from hospital, went to the meeting I should have been at, then brought us lunch at home. This included wraps, which later I watched Alice the cat enjoy as we left the ones we didn’t eat on the table! We have mad cats. Another one of the new intake seems to enjoy cheese and onion crisps! Anyway...



As well as me suddenly going into hospital, Lis has had a night in the Royal Papworth in Cambridge trying to help her with her sleep problems. She has had a through 24 hours of sleep study tests and we had a helpful time with a consultant tonight before we left. Some of the staff on the ward were amazed we said thank you to them. Others were amazed we asked their name when they were kind to us. It is as if showing gratitude is so counter cultural in 21st century Britain, people are surprised when you tell them you appreciate their care. In a desperately overstretched NHS, with staff at breaking point, the least we can do is say we are grateful to them for their care. The ward at Papworth tonight had nurses and doctors from Greece and Spain and Poland. So why are we leaving the European Union can someone tell me? 

I’m beginning to put worship together for a week on Sunday. The lectionary is the story of ten lepers healed by Jesus yet only one returning to say thank you. 

A commentator writes: “It was natural to return and give thanks, and yet nine did not do so! If the Lord had cured you from leprosy, would you not thank Him? Have you ever thanked Him for leaving Heaven for you (2 Corinthians 8:9); for coming to Bethlehem’s manger for you (Luke 2:7); for triumphing in the wilderness for you (Matthew 4:11); for His three years of public ministry for you (Acts 10:38); and for all that He endured in Gethsemane and accomplished on Calvary for you (Luke 22:44; 1 Peter 2:24)? Have you ever thanked Him that He rose triumphant from the grave for you (Romans 4:25; Revelation 1:18); and that He ever lives to make intercession for you  (Hebrews 7:25; Romans 8:34)? Have you thanked Him, not in word only but by the dedication of your life to His service?”

Why do we find expressing gratitude so hard when we don’t get anything as a right but out of kindness and grace of another? Two little words can make all the difference to people’s well-being. We all need to know we are appreciated. To be taken for granted is a horrible state of affairs. We all matter and we need a our contribution to society acknowledged. Don’t we? 



I love that the word “Eucharist” when we think about communion means thank you. When we kneel and hold the bread and wine of the sacrament in our hands we are reminding ourselves of the generosity of Christ who gave himself for us and gives us renewal and life and hope as we remember what he is about. I’ve over the last year and a bit been held by the Psalms, especially at Anglican evensong where we don’t leave out the horrible bits but we thank God for being there in good and in horrific. The other week in Norwich Cathedral we shared this Psalm: Psalm 83, words of assurance there is an end, and that end is in the hands of God, and we rehearse God’s goodness until we know it and anticipate it to come in completeness when his Kingdom is come. That’s Christian hope! 

 

To say thank you to God is to confess: “I am not my own and I depend on Him as the Giver of all good things.” Thus, when he pours out His mercy and compassion upon us, it becomes normal to respond with gestures of gratitude and thankfulness.

To truly love God is to love our neighbour. There is a gift and there is a giver. Gratitude acknowledges dependence on the person who gave the gift. We recognise that we are not self-sufficient and that we really do need one another and the gifts that we receive from others. Gratitude is my response to that gift. I am bemused why, like nine lepers in Jesus’s ministry we find it too difficult or unnecessary? 



Velvet is grateful I’m in for the evening! She’s thankful for my lap and my attention. I need to rediscover a spirit of gratitude again. To live life never seeing divine possibility and going in on yourself, is really hard. But imagine a life where no one feels appreciated. 

Gratitude acknowledges our need for one another.

Our need of God gratitude at its best is manifested in the context of reciprocal relationships. To truly love God is to love our neighbour. There is a gift and there is a giver. Gratitude acknowledges dependence on the person who gave the gift. We recognize that we are not self-sufficient and that we really do need one another and the gifts that we receive from others. Gratitude is my response to that gift. 



And tonight after a tough week, I was grateful for a chip! So thank you Riverside Fish Bar in March. I needed you tonight!! 

Please remember to be grateful. It will make someone’s day if you acknowledge them. If we were more grateful, well, who knows how different the world might be.